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Road trip to UBUD


So this is supposed to be the first of many to come articles about my life in Bali and about my daily life here.

No worries i will never stop writing about Art or Film! just in case you wondered.
My friend Mirjam from Vienna is currently visiting Bali and we decided to "do Ubud" together.

The last time i was in Ubud was in February aka it was low season.


So we didn't want to go anywhere without knowing what every middle age desperate housewife knows about Ubud - oh yes i am talking Julia Roberts - as preparation we watch "Eat Pray Love".
People. Ubud is not like that. at all.

Besides the fact that the movie itself is a HUGE bore -
 
quote Mirjam:  "I want the wasted 2,5 hours of my life back please" 

- and in my opinion sexist towards women (come on she stays because of him and her life makes sense again because she has a MAN in her life? sorry but that is BS).


Don't get me wrong here, Ubud is nice but i prefer to visit during the off season. And also the outskirts of the center are more for the eye. We had some great routes through the jungle and beside rivers and the "Tegalalang" canyons.

We drove all the way up to "Tempak Siring" to visit
"Titra Empul" - a Watertemple with several fountains to purify yourself in.







Yes we did that, and i found the experience to be very nice! 
What was more to our discomfort or/and disgust where the usual tourist disrespecting the privacy of the people performing the ritual. Taking pictures and selfies at the fountain, wrapping their beach scarves around themselves as if they would be actual sarongs - not cool guys!


 
so of course there were many Pokemon to catch on the way ;)

We stayed at the BALILA Homestay owned by my friend Birgit - lovely place for, peaceful and good prices! (starts at 17€ per night incl. Breakfast)

 A small temple in the sacred monkey forrest in Ubud - and no it was pretty much impossible for  Ms Roberts to bike along that canyon, she would have broken her neck and died #Hollywoodfakesitall






 YAY itsa me Marky!
beautiful pottery colors on the way to Tempak Siring



We also stopped in Sukawati - it's known for its big market of typical indonesian handcrafts. I purchased a beautiful handwoven Ikat



 Handwoven Ikats - simply stunning!




So when we walked through the little gangs we stopped as we saw this rooster crucified against the wall of a house. I have been living here since half a year now and never have i seen or heard of a ceremony like this so i was very interested in finding out what and why.
Our friend Made explained to us that the owner probably liked his fighting rooster so much that when after he died he nailed him to the wall out of respect.... cooooool !!!




Me catching the last sun yesterday evening :)
have a great week you all!


MB


Sundays finest

So one thing i just really don't like doing is taking pictures of things i see or places i am at ;)
i literally have to remind myself to do so over and over again. no idea why that is...

Anyway, i had some amazing last days here in Bali because my friends from Austria  julia and christina came to visit me.
Sadly they only stayed three days with me but we made the best of them and im sure it was not the last time they came for a visit ;)

So christina is the complete opposite of me - she takes pictures all the time - so all picutres below are by her and they are pretty awesome! (her camera has WIFI! #wayofthefuture)

having the girls here reminded me how much i do miss my old home, my dog, my apartment and and my friends!
I'm really happy though that i have friends like them.

all Picturres: Christina Haderer



So Julia got a new job at a fair trade company named EZA - based in salzburg EZA buys and distributes products from all over the world making sure they are produced under fair conditions for the workers in the country of origin.

So we went and visited ARUM DALU in Canggu - they specialize in Fair trade goods such as Silver goods, Woven bags, Ikats(traditional scarves), Lamps and even casquettes !



On our way to PANTAI SEHSEH























MB

Why gay men are the biggest Bodyshamers.


NO FATS, NO FEMS! 

- Whoever among you readers is gay and tried using a Dating-App before might know these kind of Headlines on other profiles. Bodyshaming among homosexual men is pretty common. Queens, we need to talk.
It's actually absurd: Many gay have experience in their past with being bullied and discriminated in some way - and still we exclude others because of their appearance. To Fat, to thin, to feminin - it's pretty easy to make a mistake. BUT WHY?

Where does the "only gay in the village" look for a like-minded spirit? In the world wide web.
Dating-Apps in the Gay world are no new thing at all. We have been using them way before straight people where. We have bowed to the laws of online dating years ago.
It all stands of falls with your... Profile picture. It's all about the "right" display of one self.
The Rule is: You are only as sexy as your profile picture.

Olivia Foster-Gimbel and Renee Engeln (social psychologists) published a study in "Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity" (click HERE or HERE for more infos) that claims there is a Antifat-Bias in the gay scene.
215 gay men were interviewed between the age of 18 and 78. The Study says: Gays think of men as obese when heteros still think of them as "normal weight". In a follow-up Study Foster-Gimbel published she found out that as a slightly obese man chances to get ignored or even mobbed are higher in a gay bar then in a bar with a majority of heterosexual cliental.

A study (HERE) by Columbia University (USA) from 2007 where 126 straight men and 388 gay men where asked to fill out a questionnaire on the topic of eating disorders. The result showed that one third of all men who have an eating disorder are gay. The Reason they mentioned: Higher expectations on the outer appearance in the gay scene.

"THE RIGHT MAN"

No doubt about that as in the hetero world there is a gay beautystandard, it's called "the right man".
He is a ripped athlete, really manly. Masculinity is nothing bad. But when it makes sure the only thing we accept when it comes to the male gender - now thats disturbing.
Because the problem with "the right man" is that he is actually straight.
A T-shirt design recently cause an outrage in several media channels. The print said "No Fats No Fems".
Basically means whoever does not have the perfect body and on top of that is not "straight acting* " wont stand a chance with the guy wearing the shirt.
This Shirt shows: Homonorms do exist - a norm that homosexual men have to be part of. Under the pretext of "Preference" hate is spred.
Course there are other sub-communities in the gay culture that approve and even welcome particular body-types.
Twinks - boyish young men/teens
Bears - hairy strong men
Otters - hairy slim men
Daddy, Geeks or Jocks - trained sexually successful but intellectualy rather slow men
Leather guys, trans and many more.
The problem though stays the same - reducing a person to his looks.
Good for those who fit in - its nice feeling part of a group - but the rules are harsh and you will be excluded if not fitting.
GYM GYM GYM

To achieve the look of "the right man" one has to follow the hurd to the gym and a change of diet is crucial. A market research done by the US-american company "Community Marketing Inc." (more infor HERE)  specializing on the LGBTIQ-community in 2012 came to the result that in the US gay men are the group of people who spent most of their money on Fitness and gym. (see it HERE)

Marius is 23, lives in Berlin and is to tall for the gay beauty-stigma, to thin and to feminine.
He says: "I do kinda want to got to the gym but i know i do not look like what is expected of me so i am afraid of rejection."

- A mindset that i myself, mark, can understand and shared for a long time.

It is the constant wish for self-improvement, one can sense that the community says:
Work on yourself, change your diet, work on your body. It's the only way to be successful and only then you can find love.
It should be pretty clear: Out outer appearance does not define who we are and there is not only ONE way to live your life. Or one way to be "the right man". Wether you are "to fat", "to thin" more masculine or more feminine, if you are homo, hetero or lesbian - Judgement is what parts us on instead of bringing us all closer together.

Specially in the "queer" community we should face each other with respect, love and sensibility. Because WE should know better. With all the discrimination, hate and persecution out culture encounters. Whoever experiances Bodyshaming and feels insecure - speak up! - "Dude that was not okay" can be a start.
MB

this article was published on www.ze.tt and written by Florian Prokop in german.
we translated it to english.

Sundays finest - on monday

After starting the weekend right with a wicked punk-rock concert at PRETTY POISON in Canggu i hit the town to stop by at a DJ Set at La Favela and later to KOH
KOH - probably the best club in Bali so far, ill be sure to write up an extra post about that asap ;)
So to make a long story short i had the most beautiful sunrise driving home on my scooter watching the sun come up over the rice fields (probably like 5 a.m.)
It's been a while since i went out THAT long xD


So after bumping in to my friend Fa' that night we met up at a place called "THE LAWN" in canggu.
Super chill place and not crowded, fresh fruit juice and Bakso (Indonesian meatball soup, yes i ate meat but i get to do so once a week ;). All a hungover heart needs!

Relaxing all day, taking a dip in the ocean and talking about how GoJek (best App in the world) should deliver sperm xD (wait what??!) - so pretty much a perfect chill sunday.

After sunset i decided to go home and be to myself the next day, stopped by the market and got some veggies and some tahu (tofu) to make dinner.


SAMBAL:
2 small red chilis
2 small violet onions
olive oil
salt
rosemary 
2 shards of lime






THE LAWN









 Fa' & Moi 





MB

Bali - my new home

Okay, so as you noticed i haven't been posting anything the last weeks.
Different reasons and one of them was the move to my own little house here in Bali.

I moved from the super hip Canggu to the edge of Dalung because "ggu" was just to busy for me.

Here in Dalung im pretty much on my own what i find super because i am kind of forced to learn Bahasa Indonesia (Indonesian language).

So i am starting to get used to the system here in bali - and im not sure you ever get used to it growing up in the western world. But i am sure Bali teaches you a lot. a lot of patience ;)




So the other day i was at my house and realized it has been four weeks since the last time i have been to the beach. So i packed my things and off i went!
Beachdays should always be a must in my weekly schedule.

So i am also SUPER LAZY when it comes to taking pictures so i just simply don't take any.
But on my way to the PERERENAN Beach i took some for this Blog.
I will be sure from now on to take more pictures and Blog more about life here :)




My little House



Pererenan Beach


MB


 

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